Paradise Lost - Spanish study on sex drive - by Isabel Ibáñez
For many people, going to bed with one’s partner means fear of rejection once more, and the inevitable worsening of the situation if one of the partners insists too much. “This is not the way to solve the problem. It only causes further problems,” says Juan Carlos Sierra, professor of Evaluation Psychology at the University of Granada. The experts assure us that there is no need to worry if we fail to match the frequency with which other people claim to have sex. Once again, reality tends to fall short of expectation.Women seem to suffer lack of sexual desire more than men. One in three are not sure exactly what libido is, and the experts tell us the proportion is much higher. “Now it’s rare to find a woman over 40 with a strong sexual drive. They’re worn out by that time, with children to care for, a home to keep and work outside the home,” says Professor Aizpiri. “The concept of women enjoying sex in a Christian society over the past two thousand years has repressed women. Up to two decades ago, we had a society in which women were not expected to feel the desire for sex. In places like Brazil, on the other hand, sexual activity is highly valued in women of all ages.”
Félix López confirms, nevertheless, that lack of sexual desire is more commen in women. “They are more demanding when it comes to sex,” he says. “Many men are happy with sporadic sexual encounters, but this is rare in women. They generally demand more of an intimate relationship.” And although there are theories that sexual drive is falling in men, López tells us there is no sure way of knowing this, because men tend not to recognise such a problem.
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